Losing a pregnancy or infant changes you. The grief can create a
world of darkness around you. All encompassing. Swirling questions,
feelings of hopelessness, making it difficult to see out of.
While grief brings darkness, light on the other hand offers hope.
Sight. A glimpse of what’s ahead. It is powerful and it breaks through
the darkness, just enough to remind you what it’s like outside the
darkness.
October 15th
is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.. and I would love all of my friends and family to participate in the "wave of light" in honor of Zoey and Piper! It takes a community to create this wave – those
who are grieving and those who are supporting those who are grieving –
and it remembers the too-short lives of lost babies and infants. It
offers support and compassion in helping to break the darkness of grief
that surrounds moms and dads, whose arms are empty.
You have the chance to offer light, to offer hope, to share in the
compassion-giving and remind grieving families there is light outside of
the darkness.
On October 15th from 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm, in all time zones
across the world, you can light a candle to remember the babies who have
been lost from miscarriages, ectopic and molar pregnancies, born
stillborn or lost to infant death. Because of the time zone differences,
the lighting of these candles creates a “wave of light” across the
world. It’s a beautiful, moving, and touching tribute to the families
who have suffered. It’s not an image that will likely ever be seen, but
if you are home on the 15th, even if it’s not at 7 pm, I ask you
to light a candle for those who have lost their precious babies.
As these candles burn brightly, they offer a flame, a fire, the
chance to light another fire and to bring more light into a dark and
hopeless world of grief.
Support is like that. It offers light into a world of grief. It
remembers. It gives hope that light is coming. It helps suffering
families realize it’s possible to see. I can not tell you how much Will and I appreciate how supportive and loving everyone has been to us during our tumultuous battle and eventual defeat with infertility. I do hope you participate in the wave of light ceremony and help me remember Zoey and Piper, as well as any other babies lost too soon!