Suppression Check

Hi everyone!
Boy, time sure does fly when you are doing IVF while working.  I have only done IVF when I am out of school for summer, so time seemed to draaaaag on.  But I had my suppression check on Tuesday, and here it is, Friday evening, and I am like AH! I forgot to blog!! SO, sorry friends!!

We went in for our suppression check on Tuesday to make sure my little ovaries are nice and settled, so we can SHOVE THEM FULL OF HORMONES AND GROW SO MANY EGGS THAT THEY ARE JUST ABOUT TO EXPLODE!!!! so.. we did our normal bloodwork and then went in for the ultrasound.  I was so excited because this was the FIRST time I would actually get to see my TAC!! I told the ultrasound tech about it and she said I was only the second patient EVER in the history of Nashville Fertility Center to have a TAC, so she was pretty excited to see it as well.  It basically just looked like a bright white line.  All I could think was, Praise God, that bright white line is going to stop me from ever losing another baby.  That bright white line is going to bring a baby into this world. That bright white line healed my broken body.  That bright white line could have saved my girls if circumstances were different.  That bright white line is going to save their brother or sister.  Needless to say I almost lost it right there on the table.  Of course the hormones didn't help any!! After seeing the TAC, the tech said I had lots of little micro follicles and everything looked great!

After the ultrasound, we met with our nurse, Tina.  Tina was with us for our cycle with the girls, and she was with us for our failed FET cycle, so we are pretty close to her.  She went over the medication (a mere formality, Lord knows I could take all this medicine with my eyes closed) and then she tentatively asked me how many embryos we were planning to transfer this time.  Honestly, I feel like we are stuck between a rock and a hard place.  Yes, I know my TAC can hold twins, but there are soo many other complications with twin pregnancies, AND I would have so many awful flashbacks, I would basically be terrified the entire  time.  I would not enjoy my pregnancy at all.  I know I would be so much more relaxed if we only transfer one.  But, we did just transfer one for our frozen transfer, and that was an epic fail.  It didn't even take.  So, There are pros and serious cons to both.  I told her I didn't know what to do.  So, she said if we have a perfect embryo, grade A, already hatching, extremely high probability of taking, then we would do one.  Anything less than perfect, we would transfer 2.  I feel comfortable with that.  So, we won't know how many embryos we will transfer until the actual transfer day!

After that difficult discussion, I had to have another trial embryo transfer, which sucked, as usual.  It feels like the worst period cramps you could ever have.  They basically insert a catheter and essentially "draw a map" of where they had to go left or right to navigate the catheter from the cervix into the uterus, so there is no guess work when they try to get in there with an actual embryo.  Everyone was nervous and did not know what to expect with the TAC in place.  Luckily, the catheter went in easily and with no problems! yay!

We got our new voicemail box (repeat customers: mailbox #5), then we went to go file our taxes and have a nice lunch.  When I finally called my mailbox, Tina said my E2 level was 32, so I am officially suppressed.  I start the big guns (Gonal-F and Menopur) tomorrow evening, then have ultrasounds Tuesday, Friday, and Monday.  Hopefully on Monday we will have an egg retrieval date!

I did not get a picture of my TAC, but I found someone else's picture of what mine looked like (obviously, mine is minus the baby... for now!!).  I love my bright white line!!!

And in honor of starting 3 more injections tomorrow...

Medicine during the Snowpocalypse

So I know I said I wouldn't blog about every little thing this time, but I feel like the medicine crisis of 2016 is blog worthy!

I ordered my medicine on Wednesday, 01/20.  I was so excited because our insurance lowered the price from about $2800 down to $350, which is out of this world amazing.  So the lady said she could ship them on Thursday and have them here by Friday, so I could begin Lupron on Monday.  Great!  Not great.. Because on Friday mother nature decided to give Tennessee the most snow it has seen in 30 years and shut down the entire state!  So I am freaking out because this medicine needs to be refrigerated or it will spoil and I will have to file a claim and order more medicine and go through insurance again and explain what happened and... all before Monday when I am supposed to start Lupron.  When I was able to reach someone at Fed Ex, she says "well, the Nashville office closed at 12 (it is 3pm) so you can try tomorrow."  Basically I am seeing my whole IVF cycle go down the tubes and am thinking I will have to start all over next month.

The next day, Saturday, I call again to see if they will possibly be able to deliver the package.  I explain the whole situation and in now so nice words explain how this is $3000 of medication, not a trinket from the QVC channel, and she reluctantly begins researching where my package is.  After 45 minutes, she tells me my package was left on the truck all night after everyone apparently abandoned ship after 3 snowflakes accumulated on the ground.  At least it was cold enough to prevent it from spoiling.  She said someone would call me when my package was taken off the truck and said they would refrigerate it for me.  3 hours later a Fed Ex worker called me to let me know the package was put in the refrigerator and would be delivered Monday morning.  At this point I am just praying it is delivered before 12pm, because if I take it later than that and then take another shot Tuesday morning, it will make me sick, due to being taken too close together.

So, I finally got my medicine today at 11:15!  I unpacked that box, stabbed myself with a lupron needle, put the rest of the medicine in my refrigerator,  and took a deep breath.  What a mess! Thankfully, I am still on schedule for my suppression check on Feb. 2nd and all is well with the world.

Here we have a picture of snowpocalypse 2016, and the box of medicine that took about 5 years off my life!!

 

IVF #3!

Hi everyone!  Wow, I feel like it has been forever since I have done an update.  Not much has been going on, we have just been waiting around for our new insurance to become effective (01/01/16) to begin a new cycle.  We officially started our IVF cycle last Sunday!  I doubt I will be so detailed with blogging this time around, just because I feel like it is exhausting and redundant for those that have been following since 2011.. BUT I will be posting the important stuff (egg retrieval, transfer, etc.)  Right now I am taking birth control and getting ready to start the lupron on 01/25.. then our suppression check will be on February 2nd (Happy birthday Will!! lol)  From there we will start stimulating and go for a ton of bloodwork and ultrasounds, and finally my egg retrieval is scheduled for the week of 02/15 (Happy Valentine's Day!)  I feel like I really skimmed over this huge process but, you all know this isn't my first rodeo.  I am just praying this time we get our living baby!! OH, and the best news ever is that I don't have to take those awful intramuscular progesterone shots this time!! My nurse said that because insurance covers meds, I can use a cream instead of the shots.  Will had to give me those terrible, awful, no good very bad (teacher moment) shots for like 13 weeks with the girls, so needless to say he is about as excited as I am about this.

Sidebar~ Thank you to EVERYONE who comments  their support on my blog!  I literally had NO idea people were even commenting until I went back and re-read my last post to see where I left off.  I was like "wait what? 4 comments?!"  Honestly, this is an outlet for me, I really just type whatever comes to my brain at the moment, post it, and go on with life.  I never go back and re-read so, I am sorry to anyone who has asked questions or showed love on my posts, I promise I am not ignoring you! I'm not a very good blogger, haha! I will try to do better from now on.


So, there you have it folks!! IVF- take 3!! Please please pray for us <3 <3

Fertility after Zoey and Piper

Hi everyone!

There hasn't been much to blog about since getting my TAC in July.  I have been taking my MANY pills daily, working out, and staying very busy at work. 

Today was our first "fertility" appointment.  We had to get all of our prerequisites done.  I had to get another HSG done.  This is where they insert a catheter and inject dye into your tubes to make sure they are not blocked.  It's not really painful but it isn't exactly a walk in the park either.  Most people only need one, but this is the fourth one I have had.  I was nervous because I thought it might be painful now that I have a TAC, I was nervous about the TAC blocking the catheter, I really didn't know what to expect.

After a long wait, they finally called me back.  First, they do a little "interview".  The nurse took me to a small room, and the awkward conversation went as follows:
Nurse: Have you had one of these before?
Me: Yes, this is actually my fourth!
Nurse: OH! uhhh.. wow.. how unusual! okay.. have you ever been pregnant?
Me: Yes
Nurse: Did you deliver naturally?
Me: Yes
Nurse: And how old is the child?
Me: Um.. actually, I lost them at 20 weeks
Nurse: ....so.... you didn't deliver?
Me: ?!!? Yes, I did.. I delivered them naturally at 20 weeks.. they did not survive.
Nurse: ** akwardly writing notes** Okay... So have you had any surgeries on your uterus?
Me: No, but I had a transabdominal cerclage placed around my cervix in July
Nurse: A what?!?!
Me: Transabdominal cerclage...........
Nurse: A cerclage?! I thought those were only placed while pregnant??
Me: ... uh.. no.. it's not a regular cerclage.. it's placed abominably pre pregnancy..
Nurse: huh?? never heard of it.. you're just full of surprises!!
Me: um.. okay.. how much longer???

So yeah!! After that awful conversation, I went in the room to complete my HSG.  Luckily, I had a different nurse, who was wonderful!!  Everything came back normal (just like the first 3 times) and the doctor had no issues inserting the catheter, which lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders and gave me a lot of comfort about going through IVF and the many catheters and ultrasounds that come with the territory.

After the HSG, Will and I went to the Fertility Center to complete our prerequisite bloodwork.  We both felt so strange, because we didn't see any of our "people"!  There was a new front desk person, back desk person, and phlebotomist.  We were sad we didn't get to see anyone, but it was also kind of comforting because it was like we were starting over.  No one knew us, so no one had that "pity" look in their eyes that we often get from people that know our whole story.  It was actually refreshing for people to think we were newbies coming in to complete our bloodwork for our very first IVF.  The phlebotomist literally took 12 viles of blood from me.  I kept looking at the tubes thinking 'surely some of those are for Will?!!!' No, they took about 3 viles from Will and 12 from me.  I was feeling pretty light headed leaving, to say the least!! Results should be back in a week. 

So, that is what is going on in our fertility world!! Now, on to Zoey and Piper..

We are quickly approaching the 1 year mark of losing our sweet baby girls.  It seems like a lifetime ago, but at the same time it feels like yesterday.  I am trying so hard to stay strong, but I can feel myself unraveling.  Our perinatal appointment was October 30th, which was the beginning of the end.  I was put on bedrest that day, and thus began the slow fall to November 9th, the loss of my whole world as I knew it.  These dates are coming towards me like a freight train I can not stop.  I am starting to cry at the drop of a hat.  For example, my first graders were crazy on the Friday before fall break, which is very normal (ask any teacher!!)  Normally, I would be like "gosh!! These kids are cray!!!!"  and move on.  But this time, I cried all through lunch and spent the next hour in my principals office crying.  I am having trouble coping with every day struggles because my mind is so preoccupied with coping with dealing with the milestone dates that I can not stop from approaching.  I am so thankful to have the support that I have, especially at work, to help me overcome the next few weeks.  I thought I would be strong enough to do a memorial party for the girls, but as the date approaches, I am realizing I am not strong enough to do that on the first anniversary.  Maybe on the second, or the third.. maybe not ever.  It hurts so deep, something I could never describe.  My mom and I have decided to do acts of kindness that day instead.  We will be visiting the hospital in which I delivered my girls and bring gifts to the amazing nursing staff who helped me through that horrific time in my life.  One nurse stayed an extra 4 hours past her shift because I begged her not to leave me.  One nurse cried with me and prayed with me on my bed and told me about how she herself lost a child at 26 weeks gestation.  They were so wonderful, and I want them to know how thankful I am.

Please pray for me as I face these milestone dates, and as I begin another round of IVF.  It will be hard because it is going to make me miss my girls every step of the way, but I also know I have 2 little cheerleaders in Heaven that are pushing mommy to do what she can to create a living, happy family.

Thanks for reading!

A Memorial Birthday for Zoey and Piper

Hello Everyone!!

I am feeling great since my TAC surgery.  I prayed constantly for a speedy recovery because I knew I would have to begin working in my classroom and going to inservices, and I really did not want to depend on pain medication for too long.  It has been one week since leaving Chicago and honestly I can hardly feel my incision anymore.  I have been off all medication for 2 days and I am feeling great!  Walking around, cleaning the house, even going shopping!  God definitely answered my prayers and I could not be happier.

I also have been back in touch with my IVF nurse.  She is so excited to hear from me and let me know how many people at the fertility center are pulling for us.  They have honestly become like family to me, and they all love us so much.  I have started my supplements again and will go in for my prerequisite bloodwork in November.

I am so excited to begin our journey to bringing our living baby into the world.  But I don't want anyone to think I am forgetting about our girls, and I definitely don't want them to be replaced or looked over as we begin the next steps in our lives. 

Zoey and Piper's first birthday will be November 9th.  I can't believe it has been almost a year since losing them.  I really want to have some sort of memorial party for them.  I want to make a tradition for this and celebrate their birthday every year, so they are never forgotten by us and they are known by any of their future siblings.  I am thinking some sort of dinner party, and releasing biodegradable lanterns with messages from each guest written on them.  I know in my heart they are with me always, looking down on me, and I just can't fathom letting their special day go by without memorializing them in some way.

Please let me know if you would be interested in attending my girls' memorial birthday.  I know it may be weird or uncomfortable for some people and I completely understand that.  But they deserve to be recognized and remembered their birthday, living or not.

Thank you all for staying on this wild and crazy ride with me!
Here is a picture of the supplements I will be taking for the next year and a half or so.. yay me..
I am also attaching the blog from which I got the idea about the lanterns.  There are lots of pictures that may explain my idea better than I can.  I sincerely hope you are able to be a part of it!

Paper Lantern Memorial 

TAC surgery

Well, we are back from Chicago!  I still find it hard to believe that I found out about the abdominal cerclage just 4 short months ago, decided to go for it, and now here I am, TAC-ed up!

We got to Chicago Tuesday evening and it was freezing! Seriously, we let TN when it was about 100 degrees, so of course all we packed was shorts and tank tops.  We got to Chicago and were welcomed to a windy 70 degrees.. SO our first stop was to get jackets!! Then we had the most delicious pizza ever (who can go to Chicago and NOT have the famous "pie") and went to bed.  I got to the surgery center at 6:30am to get prepped for surgery.  Dr. Haney came in and once again explained how the TAC works, why it is so amazing, and how I will never have to experience loss again.  He also told me when I DO get pregnant, my uterus is going to be held very high by the TAC, so I will basically look like a very large beach ball! Will had a good laugh about that one.. Next thing I know, I get a mask on my face, then wake up about 2 hours later.

Dr. Haney said everything went perfect.  He said he looked at my uterus, ovaries, and everything when he was in there and it all looked great, no issues.  He said I did not have any fatty buildup around my cervix, and it was not short or swollen.  He said there is NO WAY anyone could tell it was incompetent (even him) until he touched it.  When you touch a cervix, it is supposed to feel like touching a plastic straw (hard, rigid), but when he touched mine, it was squishy, like play doh.  The good news was that is is nice and long, and since it wasn't swollen or anything, he easily put 2 bands in, as high as they would go.  He said these bands hold a total of 140 pounds, and I will have NO problem carrying twins.  He also said he loved the tattoo I got for my girls, and he realizes what a big deal this is for me.  He looked me right in the eye and said "you no longer have incompetent cervix, now go get pregnant!!"

The next day we did some sight seeing in Chicago (my dad pushed me around in a wheelchair! Will and I were a match made in Heaven, lol).  We went to Millennium Park and saw "The Bean", ate some delicious Chicago food, and looked at all the amazing buildings before we went home.

So, now I officially have a Trans-abdominal Cerclage and am ready to do IVF again!  The next step is getting on Will's insurance in November.  His insurance covers 90% of IVF, so in the meantime we are saving up for the other 10%, the deductible, and the cost of medication.  We are nervous to start the whole process again, but I know Zoey and Piper are cheering for mommy and daddy up in Heaven!!

Here are some pictures from Chicago, and a picture of the difference between the TAC and other types of cerclages.  The lower the cerclage, the higher the likeliness of funneling and dilating through it and losing the baby anyway (along with bedrest, or a very long NICU stay with the baby suffering from lots of lifelong problems)  My doctor (95% of doctors) only do the McDonald cerclage, which only has about a 75% success rate (and that includes babies born at 24 weeks that have 6-9 month NICU stays..) My TAC has a 99% success rate (only includes babies born after 37 weeks!)

Vacation and MORE hurdles!!

hey everyone!!

Sorry I haven't blogged in a while.. just really haven't had much to blog about! Will and I have just been laying back since deciding to get the TAC surgery.  We both (well mostly Will talked me into it....) decided that we needed to just get away.  We have spent ALL of our money on fertility treatments, while ultimately led to heartache, since we have been married, so he finally said "we haven't had anything to look forward to or be excited about since we started fertility", and that really hit home for me.  so the next day I booked a cruise to the Bahamas.  I really did it just to please him, but I can not tell you how MUCH NEEDED this cruise was.  For the first time in forever we finallt had the chance to just let loose and enjoy each other, without the stress of appointments, medications, shots, pregnancy tests, disappointments, stress, heartache, etc. etc.  We had fun, we let loose, we hugged a dolphin!! It was amazing!!!

So then I get home, start summer school, and prepare for my TAC surgery.  Well, remember when I told you insurance would cover 80%?  Well.. that was a BIG. FAT. LIE. I get a voicemail 2 days ago saying "Hey Tifani, this is Gina (my Tac surgeon's assistant) and I am just calling to say your insurance denied your TAC, so.. give us a call...)  I am not exaggerating when I say my jaw literally hit the floor.  WHAT?!! I called them months ago with the surgery codes and they said that yes, they would cover the surgery, no problem.  Appparently now the "code" is "non specific" and they "can't cover it".. after many calls and confusion, it turns out that my insurance only covers the TAC surgery if I am already pregnant.  Well, the window to get a TAC in pregnancy is before 10 weeks.  Take into account most people probably won't get a positive test/ultrasound until 5-6 weeks, then have to plan a surgery with only 1 of 2 surgeons in the world who are experts in this procedure, and that equals a whole lot of stress and panic between a successful IVF and a TAC surgery.  Too much stress for me or my body to handle.  We all know my body and my luck, so I am going to go ahead and assume that I would either not make the time frame between a confirmation ultrasound-getting the surgery and be screwed, or I would just flat out stress out enough to cause a miscarriage.  Cue Panic Mode and giving up on the idea of EVER having a successful pregnancy.

By the grace of God and many friends who found it in their hearts to donate, I have my 20% (approx. $3000) saved for the 20% I anticipated to spend out of pocket.  My mom and dad said they would match me (seriously, can you think of better parents?  They have spent so much money to try to help me, and they just keep on giving without thinking twice about it) and my aunt said she would cover whatever we are lacking.  My surgeon does a flat rate fee of $7000 for those of us who have this backwards insurance that doesn't find this surgery as a necessity (blessed are they who have never lost a child and can pass judgement on those of us who need this extra help to carry a child to term) so it looks like we will be self paying for my TAC.  It is a huge financial stress on us all.. but NOT having the surgery isn't an option.  I just can not risk losing another baby due to not getting a surgery that will allow me to carry to term and deliver a healthy baby, just because insurance says I "don't need it". 

So, surgery is still a go!  It hasn't been an easy journey, but for those of you who have been reading for a while, has any of this been an easy journey for us?? We will not be beaten!!! We will continue to fight and we WILL bring a healthy baby into this world, come Hell or high water!!!

Here are some pictures from our MUCH NEEDED vacation!! I am also attaching the link for our gofundme account.  This self pay mess is throwing a HUGE kink in our plan, and it is going to be a huge financial stress on us, as well as our whole family.  Like I said, NOT getting the surgery is not an option.. any dollar you donate is a dollar that does not come out of our or our families already depleted savings.. thanks in advance!!! 

I love you all and thank you so much for keeping up with me and praying for my family!!

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